Don’t Be Afraid of Failure. Failure is the Key to Success!
It is not the winners are who never fail. It is the winners who never give up. A boxer does not lose the match when he has knocked to the ground. He loses if he does not stand up.
Unfortunately, because of the fear of losing, most people never accomplish their goals, they prefer not to do anything. However, if we want to make changes in our life, we have to do things differently, even if we must sometimes fail because failure is an essential key to success. Some people say: If I don’t try, at least I won’t fail. Yes, but if you never fail, that means you have never tried anything new; therefore, nothing is going to change in your life.
Where Does the Fear of Failure Come From?
I am an admirer of Brian Tracy. I have read a few of his books. One of my favourites is Maximum Achievement. In his book, he explains that fear of failure arises from our childhood.
Fears begin in our childhood. As we are growing, we have to face many destructive critics at around the age of 4 or 5. At this age, children don’t feel afraid of anything. They don’t know what fear is. They climb up trees, touching dogs they are not familiar with, run out into the road without any concerns for the traffic. But when a child breaks the rules, most of the time, the child gets punished.
As a result, a so-called conditional reflex develops later and turns into fear of failure at adulthood. Thus no wonder why most people rather stay away from a new challenge. They may like to achieve new goals, but instead of taking action, they rather stand back and watching opportunities passing by. The fear is stronger than a desire in their unconscious mind. They instead let the opportunities go, because they think, at least they won’t lose. They don’t want to realise that: sometimes, failure is the key to success!
Successful people never give up on failure. They learn from it, and they attempt to overcome the task again and again until they succeed.
Just think about the invention of the light bulb. Edison made 1000 unsuccessful attempts before he succeeded. When someone asked him how he overcame the failure of 1000 times, he replied: “I didn’t fail 1000 times, the light bulb was an invention of 1000 steps.”
Another example is Walt Disney.
We can agree that the world would be a sadder place without Disney Land. However, Walt Disney endured several failures before created Disney Land. He lost many businesses and even lost the legal rights to Oswald the Lucky Rabbit, which was his first significant successful creation. Before he finally brought Mickey Mouse to life, he was rejected 300 times by bankers.
As we can see, failure is the key to success, which is inevitable to gain experience. So, don’t be afraid of failure; this is the way to succeed.
How to Overcome the Fear of Failure?
An excellent way to overcome failure is to strengthen our belief and say to ourselves” I can do it, I can do it” and keep saying that over and over again until it sinks into our unconscious mind. If we begin to face our fears, eventually fears will disappear. But that doesn’t mean we will overcome fears overnight. We have to practice saying positive statements to ourselves for weeks to see positive results. As every time we say to ourselves: I can do it, or I am confident, or I am capable of doing this or that, or I love myself, so too, every time we say positive statements, we send positive messages to our unconscious. In time, these positive reinforcements are integrated and locked in our unconscious mind.
“I’d rather regret the things I’ve done than regret the things I haven’t done.” /Lucille Ball/
Quota of the day:
Success is a process, a journey, not an end or a terminal where one stops contentedly.